How to find the right man for you
We all have an idea of what we expect of the perfect guy: he is handsome, elegant, intelligent, funny, well-educated, big or small, light or dark, muscular or ….
In short, we have a fairly detailed portrait him! The only problem is that in relationships, we tend to compare our partners to this fantasized ideal man.
Result? Our partner appears less in our eyes until we upset the relationship simply because he does not have all these qualities we have imagined and look for in a perfect man. So do you know how to find the right man for you?
The good news is, finding the man of your dreams does not necessarily involve looking for a man who has all the qualities that one desires.
Nope, you do not need a perfect partner to be happy! This search can quickly take on the appearance of quest that never ends.
What you need to be able to find the man of your dreams is to define the qualities that you consider essential to be completely happy and satisfied with your man.
If you have not identified these qualities, you may be mislead into entering a relationship with a man who does not suit you and this certainly will end badly (the relationship, not the man).
An example: if you expect a man that is funny and your partner is not, despite his best efforts, he may well end up annoying you. In this case,they will be difficulties in keeping your relationship afloat …
If you do not know exactly what you want in a man, you may choose your mates at random, for a result not always brilliant.
Identifying and understanding what your needs are in terms of relationships will help to clarify your desires and, finally, to prepare you for the man of your life. To do this, here are some tips.
Identify the qualities that you consider essential
Do you have a good 10 minutes before you? Well, then grab a pen and paper, find a place where you will not be disturbed and turn off your phone, your TV, your computer, in short, anything that might distract you.
Ready? So let’s start.
Step 1: List
On a blank sheet of paper, make a list of all the qualities that will meet your ideal partner. What are the characteristics and qualities that you particularly like? Be creative and open, do not hesitate to dig deep into your desires. List as many attributes as possible and do not stop until you are sure to have done the trick.
Be as thorough as possible. Enter into the details: physical attributes, values, lifestyle, religious beliefs, personality traits, leisure, age, occupation, style of dress, music and cinema tastes, etc..
Step 2: the minimum
The “minimum requirements” are the qualities that you find to be absolutely essential without which you can not imagine yourself going into a relationship with a man without feeling frustrated and unsatisfied.
Take conscientiously each quality or characteristic you listed in step 1 and ask yourself the following question: “Will i prefer to be alone than to be in a relationship with a man who does not have this quality , funny / stylish / cultivated, etc.. ”
If the answer is “yes”, write MR (Minimum Requirements for, of course) near the quality that you have to “test”. Do not worry if your list may seem superficial. One of the MR of my own list is: “Must know how to make pancakes.” This may seem a bit trivial, but it is important to me!
Step 3: The final sorting
Now, take your list of MR. For each of these, ask yourself the following question: “If a man had all the other qualities I’m looking for, would I ready to enter a relationship with him based on the fact that he did not have this one quality? ”
If the answer to the above question is yes, you can scratch that quality off your “MR” list since it is not absolutely essential to your happiness!
When your desires are identified, it is then easier to know how to find the right guy for you. You will see that after doing this exercise, you will be much more clear about your expectations and desires.
So take your list in hand and search for your ideal partner!
But be careful, though this list is useful, do not be afraid to set aside time to time to give a chance to a man who really likes you but has not passed the “MR ” test. This is a part of the feminine nature.
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