According to statistics, there is a one in four chance that the man you just started to get infatuated with is from a “ruptured heart”. If this is your case, you want to take the place of your man’s former partner in his heart, you want it all to yourself – body, mind and spirit.
Will this be easy? Nothing is less certain! Because they(a former lover) can cause a great amnesia in the heart of your man, you do not know what to do to take her out of your mans head. And sometimes you have the impression of being a sucker just good enough to console him for his lost love!
This article shows you how to make him forget his old love, or at least to diminish the memory to an acceptable degree. It also suggests ways to make you appreciate your new companion.
Play to your strengths
Push the nail
He has been separated from the other woman. It doesn’t matter if he himself wanted to leave or if she abandoned him, he is still reeling from the break, maybe a little depressed, and his wounds are still fresh. The situation must be particularly painful if your man belongs to an Earth sign (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) or water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces).
On the other hand, you are just barely making his acquaintance. This is the time when you discover each other, where one is told. What could be more normal if he talks a lot about his ex at the beginning of your relationship?
So please be understanding. Lend him an ear. Let him speak to his fill. The more he can talk, the more he can relieve himself of her memory and after a while, he will naturally feel less need to talk.
Note that the memory beautifies memories. Do not be surprised if the other woman also speaks of him in glowing terms, it covers all the conceivable qualities. Do not be confused, you’ll say that if it was so perfect and so well, there would be no reason for him to leave or has left he has plated!
But your understanding must be within limits. If after a certain time – say about three months – your man is still in the process of describing his ex to you, her way of making up, her laughs, or how she cries, and how she makes love to him … then it’s time to react.
But do not let your reaction degenerate into outbursts of anger and do not deliver him a brutal ultimatum. Act with tact and diplomacy. Skillfully and calmly let him know that you find his ex a little too present, the threesome is not your cup of tea. Never leave your piercing jealousy, but show your man that it is more advantageous for him to enjoy the present and build the future with you, rather than to regret the past, no matter how lovely it seemed.
If his ex still invades his thoughts, make sure it does not do the same with yours. Take to the skies. Do not compare yourself to her in anything: it will be the best way to prevent ruining your relationship. Wherever possible, avoid the encounter, thus depriving your man opportunities to ask you what you think of his ex.
Play to your strengths
Nature abhors a vacuum, it is well known. If you want to remove another woman from the head and heart of your man, you must enter it(his head and heart) yourself. How? By showing that you are not so bad and if not careful, he might have to miss you … very soon.
Qualities, strengths, you certainly have. So it’s time to play, to show, to make him enjoy. It is possible that strength to hear that he lived with the most beautiful, the smartest, the most outstanding girl in the world, you end up feeling a little undervalued. Talk!
To get him out of the world of his vain regrets, offer ideas, such as weekend getaways – but certainly not the places where they have been together! Let him discover your secret places and charm him. Mozart loved his ex? Take him to an Eddy Mitchell, your favorite rocker concert. She used to cook the chicken rice dish he loved? Prepare him spring rolls or fried rice, you learned the secret recipes. Then he will understood that it would be better to take you in the flesh than a dream lost forever.
Push the nail
While trying to erase the image of the other woman in your man’s mind, indulge. This is important, as you will see the angels, he will certainly do too. Happiness is contagious! And it will bring you closer to him.
Again, be careful not to compare yourself to the other woman. It will do you no good, because you are different. Do not criticize either, because you might upset your lover who, through criticisms of his ex, may also feel attacked.
But you can do something to bring back the not-so-good memories of his ex. Make him realize that he is idealizing emphatically today one who has hurt him and caused him turmoil in the past? Bring him to rethink the day when she threw his things on the floor, to where he was humiliated in front of his mother, whenever she called him all the names because he left her hanging business everywhere … If you go about it adroitly, he’ll certainly remember. And if he is a little bit honest, he will confess that he almost went through hell with her and he already has one foot in paradise!
If, after a longer or shorter period, depending on your patience and despite all your efforts and bravery, the guy still persists and signs in his tearful lamentations, then give up the game and shift your attentions elsewhere, no drama, no regrets! There is no hope for this relationship!
If this man does not realize he has the chance to live with a girl rather well – yourself – so much the worse for him! Really, that boy does not appreciate the moment and will always be a love behind.